Five Stars, Low Language, Low Religion, Low Violence, Moderate Romance

Domestic Failure

Confession, I think being a mom is hard. Before I had kids I had all these ideas of the kind of mom I was going to be, and I feel like I have failed all those ideas. Some of those ideas I had I managed to hold on to through my first one. By number four everything kind of went out the window. Especially the first year of my 4th child. Total survival mode. That was my hardest year to date. My husband was working crazy hours and we pretty much saw him once a week. We lived in a small town and I didn’t have many friends and was hours away from any family. Life was tough. We made it through and I now have all these plans of how to be that great mom I know I can be, but we have entered the 18 month phase of life with my youngest. Which good grief, they say terrible 2’s, but it’s the 18 month age that my kids put me through the ringer.

I love my kids so much and love being a mother.  I wouldn’t trade my life for any other life. Despite being hard (I know I’ve said that word a lot, but it’s true) it’s also so rewarding. Which is probably why I loved this book so much. I give it 5 stars. Yes, I loved it that much.

In Confessions of a Domestic FailureBunmi Laditan shows all the good and bad angles of motherhood.

“There are good moms and bad moms—and then there are hot-mess moms. Introducing Ashley Keller, career girl turned stay-at-home mom who’s trying to navigate the world of Pinterest-perfect, Facebook-fantastic and Instagram-impressive mommies but failing miserably.

When Ashley gets the opportunity to participate in the Motherhood Better boot camp run by the mommy-blog-empire maven she idolizes, she jumps at the chance to become the perfect mom she’s always wanted to be. But will she fly high or flop?”

It made me laugh through the whole thing. She is so raw and honest. It’s written in first person POV, which I think was actually necessary for a book like this. We needed to be in the head and heart of Ashley. She has a tough time making mom friends, and I just wanted to reach in and tell her I’d be her best friend. She had so many experiences in the book that I felt I had experienced, both good and bad. The bad I was nodding along and laughing, and the good (looking down at your sweet baby wondering how this little miracle came to be in your life). Made me smile and want to go look at my sleeping baby, except let’s be honest, there was no way I was going to go even near my sons door while he is sleeping. #lightestsleeperever!

I think every new mom to be should read this book. You hear all the time how great motherhood is, but that it can be hard. But they don’t tell you all the tiny little things that are so hard about it. All the little things that seem like such big things when you are running on so little sleep. I think a line from the book description sums it up, “At its heart, Ashley’s story reminds moms that there’s no way to be perfect, but many ways to be great.” There really is no way to truly understand until you have been through it, but I think reading this book would open eyes and prepare them a little better. At least I’d like to think I would have been more prepared. What do you think, baby shower gift? Or would it terrify the poor new mom?? –M.V.

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